My bahamas trip is planned for Aug 1st, but my friend and I want to try and push it off till our Feb. break next year. My H was blown away when I told him I won the trip and at first he asked "who is taking me", but then he stopped himself and said "I mean, who are you planning to take with you". I think he is scared that I moved on into a relationship. Which I have not, but he never sees me so he is curious.
His business thing, yea - it doesnt seem to be going all too well. This is what scares me and his parents the most. We are afraid that his self esteem cant take another blow, and we are scared of what he would do if it flops.
My H has never been physically abusive to me, but extremely verbally abusive over the past 3 yrs or so. I think his parents were saying to protect myself, because nobody recognizes my H anymore, he is turned into a completely different person now that he has left again. Its like he is going off the deep end. At the same time they know he realizes how much he has hurt me and they are afraid that if he wants to try to end his pain, that he may figure it best to end mine also. I don't agree with them though, as my H has told me up and down that he would never hurt me.
Our night out went well. My group of friends and I started out at the local bowling alley to watch a smaller band play which we all like. Then, thankfully the group decided not to go to the place I told my H we were going to, and instead we went to a different bar to watch a band we never saw (they were great). I bet you anything my H went to the bar and expected to see me there. I am happy that we didn't go as this helps with my whole goal of creating mystery.
Thank you both for telling me I handeled the conversation well. I apprieciate it. And I realize I have learned so much from here on how to handel our contacts (though rare). The funny thing to me is that he is now the one pursuing me, when a year ago it was just the opposite. Also this visit seemed very much like a replay of his visits he made last year before he came back to me. Its like I know what to expect now, and much better how to handel it. TIPPER
