I agree with what you're saying. My H makes comments sometimes, about how I'm "so perfect". I know where they come from, and I try a lot to be non-judgemental and accepting. I think on a scale of 1-10 I'm 7 or 8 on the acceptance thing...I think it's a fine line to walk, to allow them to be who/what they are but also to be encouraging of the need for progression as well.
I will think on ways I can change my attitude and step up showing more outward faith in my H. Overall, I think it's still a matter of patience and exercising my faith in his behalf as much as I can.