Ouch ..... Tom .... dude, you do seem to have hit a nerve. Thank you for trying to answer the question posed. Not sure how to bail you out now that the doors have been slammed shut and "locked". Guess that means it was truly never open for discussion.
You also seem to have helped identify at least a couple of words that are no longer deemed acceptable in thread titles, unless posted here. I wonder if the moderators intend to actually begin reading all posts for quality of content, or just the titles?
Didn't realize there were so many rules to Surviving. I do thank God that I am not still drowning in the perfect storm as I witness such a cold and inconsiderate tone of control. Perhaps many more will find themselves nere as their thread is deemed inappropriate and moved from Separated, Newcomer, or MLC. Maybe those thinking of being a WAS or experiencing Sexual troubles will be safe.
I can't count how many threads inject humor into the suppprt shared with one another. How many will be subject to annonymous complaints or censorship? Perhaps when the DB book said to maintain your sense of humor, it said when, or how much? I missed that.
It is unfortunate that posts about our day to day journey into surviving are only acceptable when they are viewed as focused on a limited topic.
It seems a lot of nerves have been struck here ... needlessly. It shouldn't be. There is so much that can be shared by those that have been in the trenches and survived. One of the things that helped me most was lurking and seeing folks maintain their humor in the heat of the hellfires; in every forum. I found I could occasionally laugh for the first time in months and months. And in that I found hope for better tomorrows.
It allowed me to feel one moment without pain, then another. In those brief moments I found strength beginning to return to my desimated psyche, and physical being. I was able to try and connect with others, for the first time in too long. And I began to feel able to offer support to others that I related to. Posting was certainly not always in jest and often emotionally draining to experience.
This web site and the people here helped save me. I will be eternally grateful for that. I will not let this cloud my concerns for the others here that are still in their journey, and learning to deal with the pain. It is something I learned a lot about on the roller coaster. Regaining composure. Detaching from what I can not control. Focus on the positive. I learned from those that were ahead of me, and to my side.
Tom, You helped. You are one of the good ones and certainly a Survivor. You have been a resource on many threads and your support appreciated. Stories of the peeps, Otto, and so much more are special. Thank you for those while I enjoy recalling a few. Sleep on it and see what is next.
