Yes they do. The action of divorce is loud and clear. But I do wonder at whoes actions you are refering to? His or hers? His action of having a divorce decree stamped sealed and put on public record forever? Or her actions in attempting to stop it? Again, I am NOT SAYING after a divorce you can't reconcile. But FIB is in a "saving your marriage" site. So in my mind, the action of filing would be a negative if he even thinks they may have a chance. Could there not be another way?
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To prove she is worthy of you.
Again, to prove ones worthiness....?? What does one need to do to show worthiness?? Especially for the female who is trying to restore thier marriage. Men are not as likely to PROVE anything. I agree that she does need some therapy, hell I need therapy. But tell me....how does it get proven. Oh, and this should have been the first thing I said. We only NEED to prove our worthiness to God. We should understand, support, listen and be there when needed.
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Without therapy, she will never understand the pain
With therapy one may never "understand" the pain. We may learn how to accept it, forgive it but the actual understanding of what pain, despair and utter devastasion she/he/any one left behind feels is highly doubtful.
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Don't stop the D, if that is how you feel
No FIB, don't stop it if it is TRULY how you feel. Just be clean quick and concise. Be sure that thier is nothing left in your heart for your wife. No one would blame you for what has transpired these last few years. It's very tiring even humiliating at times. But we came here, we chose to do this.
Don't look at this as offending or stepping over my boundaries, I am simpy trying to understand.
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
