P Nothing really works to bring them back in MLC many things can work against us its hard to go less contact but sometimes I need to its the only way I can keep DB I had to let my H go its a year since bomb he visits our kids a lot I keep quiet usually I leave house for a while It doesnt matter if we get further apart we cant really get close unless H wants to check back in right now he is in another world/life too Nothing I can do yes it hurts a lot I hate it too but I can use this experience as a tool for my growth I can practice kindness toward H who is sick now I learn..i let it all happen..i didnt fight h then he has to look at himself I say nothing b/c it doesnt matter if I do he will only drift further proabably better to have no contact than really bad contact peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow