Thanks - I definitely hear you, but I think my sitch might be different. She's not really with OM - it's an EA and it sounds like he's started drifting on. They are both in a narrow field in academia, so even if she moved to china she'd continue to encounter him. I know, I know, recipe for disaster - and it may just end in that. But I also realize that I slept with other women before marrying my WAW and she slept with other men. We both ignored those other people when we found something greater in each other. Right now, OM is attractive to her because of work. As she moves on, that is going to change.
I need to think about it. What has been driving her away has been my lack of involvement. She always has been very independent, so doesn't mind being alone. I think if we're going to have a relationship, I need to start a new relationship with her. We need to share something more stable for her to miss. At least at this point. If we rebuild our friendship and she sees that it is something she wants to depend on, yet continues to waffle, then I think keeping my distance would work. But I'm not so sure it's working quite the way it should right now. I think we're too emotionally distant for it to work. As far as MC, it was the only thing she was open to. I feel like I need to keep the communication lines open long enough to start something new.
I don't know. I need to think. One thing I'm realizing is that my old feelings for her are dead. This isn't about me trying to recapture something anymore. It's me becoming happier in my life and wanting to pursue a beautiful woman.
