Dang! I knew I was in over my head on this thread.

Where that came from Cire, is living in a world of perpetual waiting, wondering why oneday this, the next day that. If one TRULY has to divorce, then a clean cut is better than the jagged edges some of us are now dealing with. Divorce solves nothing, if you have even the remote thought of reconciliation. It is wasted time, money and feelings. I in no way am saying to FIB or anyone else they should divorce. I think I was more trying to express that if you are the one that chooses to go ahead and proceed with the divorce, then for awhile, while both parties are dealing with the agony of what just happened, should be still for awhile. I believe I said.....Walk away and only look back for your children for awhile. I did not say forever. Let the reality of what just happened sink in, get a grip, and if you feel that standing up once again is what you should do.....then DO IT! \:\) But then.....why have done it in the first place?? What did it solve??

I mentioned making her suffer because of what he said about making her realize the pain and suffering he went through. I don't think that is ever going to be possible. Her suffering and his are two very very different. Nonetheless, he chose to suffer in order to save his marriage. She will have to suffer to restore it or will she just have to suffer the divorce, then the chance of restoring it??

And thank you for quoting my signature line. I stand behind it 100%.

Like I said Cire.....off the chain, but then again, I do think differently.

Thank you Cire for the blessing. One cannot have too many.

Hugs

Jeanette

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