MLC sucks but you can do things for you and the kids to help survive the rollercoaster ride.
You actually sound pretty good for a newbie!
Taking up the violin again is absolutely fantastic, it will not only be a wonderful thing for yourself but it will also be a great distraction.
For now, I am sorry to say, there really are no real answers.
This is your Husband's crisis and unfortunately you and the kids are along for the ride.
You have to keep doing things for you, a little bit each day.
Whether it is taking a walk, or meeting with a friend for coffee.
The length of a MLC varies, but there are some here that have had to go through MLCBS for several years.
My best advice for you is to learn how to be still. To learn how to listen to what he is saying and not react. To relearn how to be his friend again.
Friendship is the basis for any good Marriage, so it is time to get back to basics.
What is different about you now compared to the woman you were when you first met?
How have you changed?
What would you need to change to go back to that place?
You may notice that my questions are about you,and keeping the focus on you. I am not blaming you for the demise of your Marriage, but each of us here had something to do with the problems.
And I have learned that changes have to begin with one person, and as you are the sane one, you get to go first
P.S. Don't forget to breathe!!!
(((((((Hugs)))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
