Willing to be disturbed...

[ediemarie]

I figured out a way to pay for H's car this morning. When he came home from church I told him that I had figured out how we could swing it, without putting the charges on a credit card. H offered to rent a car again, but the plan wouldn't work if he did. I'll have to take the train Mon, Tues and Wednesday. It shouldn't be so bad - I can do 3 days of it. H was very pleased that we can afford to do this with cash - the car guy will give us a discount if we pay cash, so that's helpful too, albeit shady.

I also explained, extremely calmly, about the unilateral decision thing. H's first reaction was, "I thought you liked it when I made the decisions in our R." To which I responded, "sure, the decisions like where we're going for dinner." h laughed - so that was good, because I meant it to be funny and light. THen he said, "I'll make sure to include you on future decisions about stuff - I'm going to try to not just assume stuff." And then he said, "Oh and by the way, I've decided I'm taking you to lunch at the Brew House." So that was nice - really cute. A nice resolution. I didn't belabor the point, and he seems to understand my POV. He offered again to rent a car, but it really is ok that I walk. I don't mind doing it when it's my decision and not dictated to me.

Em