Help...feel frustrated, helpless and sad! WAW/?MLC

[bombardier50]

Hey Purr,
Sorry that you're here but you're in a good place where people know exactly how you feel. What helps me when I start obsessing over the problem is really vigorous exercise. Also, one thing that has helped me lately is the realization that I don't NEED my wife. I want her, but I don't need her to survive and function. It helps you detach. All the old pros here will tell you that learning how to detach is the key. It's damn hard though, and I'm still working on it.

Also,if you haven't already, go back to the top of this forum and read some of the MLC info...really helpful. Another thing that has helped me is to understand what our alien spouses are thinking. Try going over to pathpartners.com and read the forums for the midlife wives and you'll have a better understanding of their thinking.

Hang in there buddy. This is an exquisite hell, I know.

Bomb