Please help me!! My wife wants out!

[steve477]

Hi Lan, thanks for those words. Nice to hear people think I am on the right track, just wanted another opinion.

Hi Jen, thanks for the ladies perspective. I have been away for the weekend, W said she had a nice relaxing time (she needs time to study) in answer to my (joking) question.. she didnt miss me at all. She is taking some things I say too seriouly at the moment, I might say she looks tired, why doesnt she go to bed.. she takes this as an order, and sarcastically answers `thanks for the advice Dad`. Today I said something and she snapped back, but I told her I dont want to fight... we are on the same page now, I think S is a good idea too. So she calmed down a bit. I have told her that I will give her plenty of space and time to study for this test, but in the time we have together (in the evenings or whatever) I dont want to fight and she should try not to take everything I say with a negative spin as I dont want to fight, and I am not meaning anything in a negative way, so she said OK.
I told her that it might be nice to spend some time togehter sometimes still. She said that she will be busy studying so can I wait till after the test (about a month), so I said `deal`. I told her that I thought that she wanted to move out soon after her test, but she said she will need to save money first. (so has changed her tune from wanting to S as soon as possible- of course with these pregnancy mood swings I could have a different story tomorrow again!!!)

She called me darling again today (didnt point it out this time). Hope it means she is relaxing. Dont think she conciously said it, but recently she has been trying not to say it I think).

Gforce, thanks for the support. I am following your thead too, lets keep up the good work man!


I had one slip up that I called her on my drive down to see my friends. It was a long drive and I got bored, wanted to talk to someone, and force of habit I called her to see how the studying was going on. She wasnt happy, she was looking forward to a weekend without me and wanted me to give her some space during this time. We exchanged text meassages later to (kind of) apoloise about that conversation... she sent first to say that she was a bit upset and put her point accross wrong, that she had a headache too and wasnt in the best of moods.
Just been for dinner at my folks. Not looking forward to telling them (my mum and sister- dad already knows there is a chance of S) if this all goes wrong.
My Dad actually thinks S is a good thing for us at the moment, but of time apart. I think it could be good too, except my W has said that she cant see my family anymore if we S (so kind of puts a cog in those works). She will be too emabarrassed. My W has no family in this country, so feels a bit up against it sometimes (even before our problems). She has told her mum we might S, and her mum just told her that it is Ws fault as W has bad taste in men! I tried not to take that comment too personally! ha! Her mum really likes (liked) me.

Anyway I will keep posting (like my solution journal)

Cheers

Steve