I agree with Ladydi.. focus on the positives.. you must have been doing something right when you felt a swing in her mood and a change in her eyes.. Keep doing whatever it was you were doing up until that point... and remember don't pay attention to what your W is saying.. focus on her actions... at least 50% of her actions should be real!
Trying to focus on the positives. Friday night W asked me why I was not going out to see my friends as much. I took this to mean that she wanted a little space. i spent Friday night watching TV downstairs with very little contact with W. Saturday I took my D7 ice skating and then came home prepared lunch for D7 and I and then went out to see some friends. Saturday night I came home prepared dinner for everyone (W, D7 and oldest stepdaughter) and then went back downstairs to give W more space. I can't believe how much W depends on me now to prepare meals. She will definately miss that.... I put D7 to bed at the same time as my W went to bed (the same bed I might add). I did not make any move to hug or kiss W goodnight. I think she noticed. This morning W is in a relatively good mood and is spending the day shopping. I have D7 all day and we will probably go ice skating again and maybe visit my parents. I am feeling a little down or should I say bored. As much as things turned around a little recently, I sense that i am living on borrowed time. The question is how much time. It is very difficult during the weekends to live apart. During the week seems fine. Maybe the weather is geting me down....snow and cloudy....this snow stuff is getting ridiculous.
weather is not great so D7 and I are watching TV. On the weird front, W calls and says she is right next to a toboganing hill and there are a bunch of families there...why don't you and D7 drive down...spend some time with me and then go sledding(this was said in a very aw shucks voice why are we not doing anything for D7)? She is shopping (work related). I am really not up to it. I'll probably do something with D7 without W. I am a little tired of doing whatever W wants. Maybe a "no" once in a while will do her some good....and maybe i am totally wrong. Anyhow, here is the person who wnts to break up the family who calls me to give me a guilt trip?????? Earth to WAW....earth to WAW come in WAW!!!!!!!
I think hearing a no once in a while should do your WAW some good.. sounds like it might be a 180 for you. As long as you are spending quality time with D7 it doesn't matter what you're doing!
Try to enjoy the rest of your Sunday and stay warm.. I agree, this snow and cold has got to go! Didn't the groundhog say spring is around the corner?? I say to the groundhog "prove it"!
Snow finally stopped and D7 wants to go skating.....so we are off to the rink. Saying no is a real 180 for me...hope it does some good.
Skating.....get a couple of videos....grocery shopping...prepare supper...bottle of red and we are off to the races. PS if I see a groundhog i am throwing it a snowball....come to think of it i never saw one in winter...how the hell did that groundhog make it up and out of this snow? Where is this groundhog anyway ....FLA?
