Thanks for your posts of support. Feels good to know that I'm not alone out here with this. Re: OM / PA, I realize it is a possibility, though at this point I am trying not to spend much time dwelling on it, as this just put me into a tailspin pretty quickly.
Ali, I've ordered the book you suggested and one or two others. It does help to try and learn more about what might be the experience of the other person. So much guesswork for the LBS. I read your story last night...our sitch's are different but have some similarities, esp on the timelines! I'm going to respond over on your thread later.