I especially agree with your comments about nice guy at work, even if you and H didn't work out this guy wouldn't be the one for you as he has the inside track on your raw emotions and it wouldn't make for a good future R.
Word of caution about listening to advice from well meaning friend, some of the stuff they tell you can throw you for a loop, even though it is told with the best of intentions. Best friends always try to minimise our agony so stuff the say is aimed at getting us out of the M.
Finally the mere fact that you have drawn up this list shows that you have it in you to move forward and follow it through.
