PS, Matilda, and Jak, My W is certainly calmer since she left her position almost a month ago. There hasn't been a meltdown in over a week.
She is back in the dance scene, so has been joining me most Friday nights. I had not been asking her to practice for the past several months, but am considering wanting to get back on-track with that again, at least weekly.
My dance classes have changed days, so I can now begin attending my writer's group again. I've been writing for a year now, so feel more ready for such a group. I want to be part of a community of writers.
I'm practicing with mindfulness exercises regarding slowing down when I'm eating, focusing on the breath when I'm lying down, and being present during routine activities. It reveals how much my mind spins during the day, and the need to continue to practice staying with difficult emotions and not getting caught-up in the fiction they can produce.
I'm trying to give my W the space to work-out her issues and problems--smoking, employment, financial. She doesn't hear a peep out of me regarding these issues unless she asks.
I tell her to choose her next job carefully, and to take her time. She offers to take on another part-time job to supplement her current one. She is interviewing for a PT job currently.
She isn't as conservative with money as I'd like her to be during this transition period. I choose not to complain about it to her. I decide that it's more important to hold onto the positives in our lives, rather than fret over money. I know she's mindful of the financial situation, and is adjusting somewhat.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
