We have all been where you are. I know I ask myself daily how and why H could do this to his family. He grew up without a dad and for the life of me I don't know why he would do this to his son. The only answer he ever seems to muster up is "I turned out okay". Really, do you honestly think you turned out ok? We hurt for our children more than we hurt for ourselves as we go through this. It's really funny because I made a list of all the thngs I want in H when he comes back and all the things I want to give to him. Funny part about it is I don't know if he has ever been any of those things on my list. It has helped me to put some things into perspective. My point is we all deserve better than this. To me what your H (mine too) is doing is cruel. I don't see how you do this to people you love. Just keep in mind that this thing is bigger than us. They have some shi-t going on we will never understand. My hope for all of us on the boardd is that GOD is giving us the strength to stand up for what we deserve. He is giving us more confidence and more self-esteem and at the end of this I really hope that he is preparing us for someone wonderfull weather that be our current spouses or new spouses. I will be thinking about you.