Aussie Girl stuggling with MLC Husband

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Essie...I agree with OneDay, seeing as contact is tailing off...do you have much to lose at this point? Maybe be brave and contact him? I guess its hard because you might not want more rejection?

I totally empathise with your questions "I don't understand how he could just walk away with only his clothes and a few bit and pieces." I had the same thing with my BF..all the bits and bobs and furniture we chose together..he only took his books in the end as I kept suggesting things he might want. He basically took only those things he came into the R with 9 years ago. And dont get me started on our photos..I cant imagine he will ask me for them, as your H hasnt. Its so hurtful and hard to fathom I know.

My sister has broken up with the three long term men she has lived with and in each case, they did the same thing - even though those breakups were amicable etc, but the men still just took a few bits and clothes. My last BF also did this after we lived together for 3 years. I do think its a very male thing so try and detach from it. On the other hand, if he really did just "run" and not even stop to sort the office out and his childhood things,I dont think that points to a particularly healthy frame of mind? As for the photos, that is hurtful, but...I lived with my first love for 4 1/2 years, he never mentioned photos either. We were always pleased to run into one another over the years and then one day, 10 years later, he said to me..I've often thought about all our photos and how I dont have any, do you still have them and can you give me copies?

So...you never know.
You have been such an inspiration to me, and really helped me. You are doing brilliantly and you seem very strong and capable, eventhough you miss him and it hurts. Wish I could pop over and give you a hug and share a vegemite sandwich with you! (or better still, Marmite) :-)
Ali x