Just checking in! It was really nice of H's aunt to call you, and I think your response to her question about taking H back was perfect. I would not beat yourself up for feeling overwhelming love for your H- that shows how committed and loving an individual you are, and of course it's not going to be possible to just turn off the love. From where I am sitting (I know it's 12000 miles away!!), you are doing a brilliant job at looking after yourself.
Originally Posted By: Essie
I don't understand how he could just walk away with only his clothes and a few bit and pieces. ..... I wonder if it is as easy as he thought it would be?
I think the fact that H has gone without his things might indicate that he has somehow detached himself from the remainder of his life(?) I think (and I guess maybe a male poster can comment?) that men tend to be better at compartmentalising things than women, so perhaps he has just compartmentalised his things away from the rest of the confusion in his life at the moment.....
So, I have a question for you Essie. H has gone for some time without initiating contact hasn't he? Thinking about DBing and 'if something's not working, do something different', do you think there might be any value in you initiating a little contact with him? Just a 'hello, just wanted to say hello' type text perhaps? Just a thought as it seemed to work pretty well when you initiated a little contact with him a few weeks ago.
