It just struck me that he has made this all about him, and he is pulling you into his drama. I know you want to be there, and help to save him from himself, but I am starting to wonder if that is a good thing for either one of you. I am really thinking that you should try to detach from his drama, and let him deal with it.
BA - what do you think about DH comments? I think DH has some good insight and I lean towards this way of thinking - how would you feel about doing a 180 and not being so available?
You mentioned somewhere that you aren't sure if your H is in MLC or not. From what I've read of your situation your H definitely is going through some sort of crisis. I've lived through a year of hell with my H when he went through a crisis (maybe MLC maybe not) - and I cant believe your strength, it is SO hard to detach when they are in the same house. I would love to know your 'secret'!
How do you feel you are going with GAL? You dont mention it much in your posts - but you must be doing some of it to be able to draw your inner strength the way that you are.
Just wondering if there is a way you could create more mystery, and make him wonder what is going on with you?
I'm being nosy.... but are you ever tempted to let MOW's H find out about affair? Its definitely not a DB move, but I know I would be tempted!
