Tigard is a wonderful part of the world. I'm from Bellingham, WA, but I've always wanted to relocate my family to the Portland area. I just love Portland.
The police issue eats at me. On one hand, I hate it fully. It isn't what I want. However, on the other hand, I'm not sure what to expect from my W right now. She is an emotional roller coaster. One day up, the next day down. What if tomorrow is a down day and I don't have a witness?
After tomorrow, I will not involve the police. Instead, I will allow her to ocme over, but I'll make sure she'll swear not to cause an arugment. I do agree that the 1st time needs to be as my L advised so she'll get the message we are in the real world here.
I think my W has the feeling she can just D me and all her concerns and troubles will go away. I'm very, very sad to have to be playing in the real world with this and if we didn't have a D involved, I'd probably let her go her own way to avoid the hassle and heartache.
The problem with that is I can't. I have more at stake than just my pride here. I have a child and a family. My W isn't thinking clearly and she needs a friend more now than ever. How can I say I love her if I abandon her now, in her greatest time of need? She may tell me to go, but a true friend will take the arrows and not run from the difficulties.
I can't run now, but I also have to stand my ground in the process. My world is not a pleasant one now, but if I can get through this first week, I can handle anything. Right now the emotions are so raw and real that it is a bit scary.
Patience and time are my friends in this endevour. I know my L thinks I'm a bit nuts (or daft for Brit in OH), but I'm determined to be the one client that he has ever had that makes him think twice before telling the next poor served Joe that his marriage is hopeless and he won't win his wife back.
I'm going to continue to do my damnest to beat the odds. I may end up being Don Quixote charging the windmill, but at least in the end, I'll be able to say I really, really tried to take that windmill down.
