Pam, I am usually told I am the offensive one.

But that post by Meredith is awesome. And I really like this part:
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You hear a lot on here about getting a life. That is the single most important part of the whole process. Don’t tell me you have no friends – join a group and make some! Don’t tell me you don’t have any money – get a second job doing something fun and make a little extra. Make those goals and stick to them, but make them about yourself. To change another person, that change always starts with you.