Tied to the Whipping Post

[Punktmann]

MMF,

I believe strongly in Ephesians 5:25 and 1 Corinthians 13. Does it conflict with deciding to stay in the house or where ever I choose to live? I don't think so.

These are some things that give me pause in what I intend to stand for in the settlement and D.

I don't think that I am in conflict here, but there is always a nagging doubt.

She picked this place. I liked it, but I kept that in check and let her opinions take precedent so that I would feel assured that she was happy wherever we lived. (I didn't know about the impending MLC then.)



My intention is to keep the house, not to screw her over, as she claims, but b/c I will never be able to provide this sort of living arrangement for my sons again. I like living here, I like raising my sons here, I like the schools, I lke having a couple of acres for them to play on, I like the nearby public hunting and fishing, I like everything about this place, except that I don't like that my W doesn't like it.

Assuming that she remains my W, that is.

If the M was not in jeopardy, I would discuss moving as she wishes. More importantly, I would consider putting in for a transfer to her home state.

I've let her know these things early on in this sitch, but she saw them as me trying to buy her off. I can understand that.



If God was sitting with you and discussing it, what advice do you think He might give?

I've been thinking about that a lot.

A lot.

I think that He would tell me to do right by my sons first, and to consider what she wants when she is back in her right mind.

I always wonder if that is telling myself what I want to hear though.

That can be an easy thing to do.

Right now, I really believe that keeping the house, and keeping them in this school district, is better for my boys. It's the only home that either of them remember, and I can't fathom pulling my S7 out of school where he is doing well, and putting him into a big city school where he knows no-one. I believe that minimizing change and disruption is good for them.

That is the path I am choosing.

The only reason that I would choose to move would be to make her happy.

She is not herself right now, so I can't see agreeing to that.

Thanks man.