Peace, he is MLC. He is not himself. He doesn't know from one minute to the next what he is saying or doing. You have to think in you mind that "He is not the husband or father to your children, that you married or once knew". I find, if I think this way when my H does this I can cope with it better. Think of your H as having a mental illness. He is CRAZY and you do not know this man. He is not the man you married and certainly not the father of your children.
My H told one of my S that he did not EVER love me. That son stopped contact with him that day and has never spoken to him since. Because this was the outcome, my H told my other son he left because we argued all the time. My son replied....dad I have never heard you and mom argue" (which is the truth, I guess that is one reason why this is so hard for me....I nor the boys saw it coming). Since that excuse did not go over very well with my second S and the fact that H has been lying to all of us, non of us are talking to him.
He called last night wants me to go and file with a cheap, quicky, friendly divorce agency and get this over with. Geeee, its been 4 1/2 months, now....he said, Can't I get it through my head that he is done and not coming back. He doesn't care what this is doing to anyone. It's all about him, his big head and his little head. The world revolves around him!
I don't want to file. I don't know if I should file or not. I absolutely love him just like the first day I met him 31 years ago. I know what he is doing is wrong. I do not believe in D unless there is physical abuse. But, I have a problem if he files first he will file in the city that he grew up in and where he is well known and rubs elbows with all the attorneys and judges. If I file here, then I will have the advantage because everyone here knows me. They will not treat him well in the courts here, especially if he brings an attorney from another city. So what do I do????? File or not???? My heart tells me not??? My brain tells me I better???? Suggestions???
Hate my life!!!
2ndnoah Married 24 years Dated 6 years H Filed D 3/5/08 Crushes my Heart! 2 teenage boys 15&19 Missing Him!
