What kills me is that I did NOTHING NOTHING like your wife or others wifes or other spouses, as most of the women on this board did nothing in the same or even remote area......

Yet......

It is what it is now. The divorce has been FINAL for 8 months. Nothing has changed in my heart. I don't even think nothing has changed in his, he's just working himself to death now.

I hate to see a marriage, a family torn apart. It is so painful. It might be more painful than her interludes were. There is a reason why she did those things ya know. She is not all there......she was not like this in the beginning right?

And just for the record, if you think she is thinking you are her meal ticket....maybe not. I think my H earns more or close to it than you FIB, I've become wealthier since the divorce. (ok make that when the house is sold but it's not up for sale) It means nothing.

You went through all that re-financing to save your home. For what? Did you save money or waste it?

I've always been leary of posting on your thread because of all the heavy hitters who post on it. All the BIG WORDS and QUOTES and heck,not to mention the movies I have not watched. It's a bit overwhelming. But for some reason, I felt today was a good day. I can't explain why, but perhaps after 2 years 4 months, if my x would drop me something....well.....

But yes, I've kinda sorta moved on. It's really hard tho. We still own our home, and he's not motivated or interested in selling it. So stuck I am.

If you feel that divorcing and moving on is what you need to do, then do it quickly and move on. Don't give your XWIFE NOTHING to hold onto. Don't drop a crumb, don't offer a hug, just do it and get it over with. As hard as this is for me to say to you FIB, don't make her suffer because of your suffering. Walk away and only look back for your children for awhile.

Give your children all the love.

Give your Xwife nothing to hold onto that you may oneday return.

Sounds off the chain huh? It is.

Jeanette

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