Hi Purr... I think you are doing well so far, good for youfor breaking the cycle of crying/pleading! Took me 2 months :-/ Also, fanstastic she has agreed to go for MC...have you picked a good one? I know the DB/DR books talk quite a bit about choosing "solution orientated" MC who support NOT breaking up.
At 43 you're W is in classic MLC mode, and probs started around 41/42 and as she moved through it, the pressure to make changes forced her to tell you. I would just say be patient. MLC is a big slow moving cycle and can take a few years to work through from my understanding, although like I said, its probably been building for a year or two anyway. Sorry I cant offer you much advice, I am new to all this myself! Although I guess alot of us are. I relate to what you say about how can we go from being best friends and completely get along and speak every day and so involved with each others lives, to this and then NC??? I had to contend with that and yes, it was very very painful. Three months on from the bomb, he asked to see me today and we spent 3 hours together. As friends though, but if you continue to wait and DB, you never know... Best wishes, Ali _________________ Me: 36 H: 34 LT: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08 3 months on
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Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
