Hi, everyone Sue, thank you for keeping my thread.
I got back from trip to home a while ago and since then things had been like a hell. But I am trying to bring myself up to the point where I was before I left.
While I was gone, I was doing alright. Every night, I had dreams about myH but tried not to think about him much. We(me and kids) called him but not enough for him (enough for me) He was upset by the time we were coming back because of lack of conversation.
We have been fighting over and over these days. Reasons? Does anyone remember I was talking about myH inviting OW1 and makes me upset. Well, he didn't go see her but SHE CAME TO SEE HIM. I found out in many tactics and wasn't like 'need to investigate'. Anyways, I confronted him and he admited after he could not keep up with his story. He didn't understand why it is a big deal if she was in the car. After several days of fighting, he finally understood that I don't want OW to step in or touch my life/belongings/kids etc etc. Because I was so mad, I boycoted the car for a while and was using other transportation. Childish.. yes but I had to do it and gave up when it was getting really cold outside (I remember it was between 0-5 degrees or so..)
Other issues, just too many. BUT H is trying to convince me that OW2 and he are not in intimate relationship. Her age 20, (I was right,)and saying "i am not seeing anybody. only person I have been talking is xxxx(OW1)"
I was lost and just didn't want to think about anything but kept coming back in my mind. I spent days crying only because of him and could not understand why I was so upset. I finally feel okay today even though we fought again. I am going to try to stop communication with him unless necessary.
Kids are doing well. We held myD's birthday party at hair salon. Her friends and she got little make over, nails and such. They had great time and looked like princess. We haven't been able to get a puppy yet and I would like to take a time to think which puppy matches to our family.
I am working on myself, I changed my hairstyle, make up style and such. BUT I gain weight over the holidays. about 10 lbs. My H noticed and my boobs and butt are bigger, which is great! and my skin look so shiny and look great (my skin is expanded by fat..) but my tommy.. look like I am pregnant. got to goback to gym very very soon..
Everyone, I missed you all and I am glad to be back. Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
I wasn't here for awhile either, but unlike you, I've just been too busy to post.
I hope your trip home was great. It sounds like it was. It also sounds like your H missed you.
I can't believe you boycotted the car! But I understand your anger. I think you said it well about not wanting OW to touch your life or belongings. She has no right to any of that.
Did I understand that your H admitted talking to OW1? Perhaps I am forgetting your sitch. Is this your H's second A or does he have 2 'woman friends'?
Joie, H admits that they have been keeping touch and it is no secret anymore.
OW2...I thought something up.. Well, she is 20 years old college girl and OW2 and H are in the same program at the university. They 'study' together very often. He is trying to tell me that she is too young to do anything. He is 28. I hope he is telling me the truth this time otherwise I will be so dissapointed the person he is becoming.
Now, I really don't see our M will come back anymore. OW1 and he has started to 'see each other' since last year Feburary. The relationship lasted 1 year.... although the relationship is based on bull s**t. H told me he is not leaving her because she needs his support. Her father is very sick.
I will browse around this website and gain some power from you all. Good night!
I know we will never know and people change better or worse.
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
Hi Joie~ Yes, I am detached most of the days. I am not snooping nore checking on him what he is doing when and where... So, it is going well for me and he has been in bad time..---until a few days ago--. He was irritated, pissy mood, nothing going the way he wants... he has money trouble (broke, does not have money to pay for tuition etc) I lend him money here and there past two months ($300 or so.. it is not killing me or anything but strugling as single mom without child support) And he has asked his parents to borrow money to cover his 'college' expense, housing, food. I was hoping his parents will deny him and he will strugle for a little while to get to bottom. I thought spoilled 28-year-old-kid(my H) needs to learn a lessen.
Guess what myH got from his parents.. they decided to give $30,000 college fund, which has been saved for my D7's college fund. So now my spoiled, lost, selfish, unreliable H has $30,000 to spend on stupidest way he can find. Now, he is telling me he will buy a car that my friend is selling. WITH MY DAUGHTER'S COLLEGE FUND! I know I cannot control his life any more and the money was not mine at all.
In my head, I a just keep telling myself "D-busting"
I am mad but I learned to be detached from him and try not to think about what he and his family will do next.
I wanted to go crazy when I heard the news but I just smiled at him and said 'that's wonderful'----in my head "are you f***ing kidding me?!?!?!".
So, I will see how this will go... while I just do my own things.
Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
