...Sometimes I do feel a little self-righteous anger when she says she wants me to sell the house, move into town and change their schools, I don't want to be controlled I guess.
I don't want to do those things, but if we were to stay married, I would do it for her. This brings the question, should I do it now?...
And that is the rub. How do you balance what you would do for your W if you thought it was something that might be a negative for yourself and your children?
In a way, and because the market is not good, I would be tempted to sell our house and move into something smaller and more cost effective but I don't, partially because this was where "we" wanted to raise our children. She also moved into an apartment where she is next to our subdivision. Now, if she moves closer to her work and she wants me to sell the house and move closer to her, would I?
I believe strongly in Ephesians 5:25 and 1 Corinthians 13. Does it conflict with deciding to stay in the house or where ever I choose to live? I don't think so.
Punk, is your intention to keep the house? Did you decide together to buy the house or were one of you more strongly opinionated in the purchase of the home? Is the house that important to keep?
While I think it is important to move or stay for the right reasons, I am in the mind that you are still married and that you have to assume that you are going to stay married. How would you discuss it if the M was not in jeopardy?
If God was sitting with you and discussing it, what advice do you think He might give?
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
