Sara, you've written some excellent posts here about the same things I've been discovering in my own M.

I agree that there is something very powerful about the bond created from years of living with and loving someone, in spite of the difficulties. I wouldn't trade it for anything. IMO, this kind of mature love beats the infatuation-type love of youth any day. (And I'm pretty sure that *is* Schnarchian. ;\) )

And Corri...another brilliant post. The truth.