WOW, out of the blue my H calls me around noon today to ask if he could stop by to chat. This is the first time he has wanted to have any in-person contact with me since he left in mid-dec. I said ok.

He stayed for about 45 min. and was very very happy, chipper, and bubbly the whole time (all an act I am sure). He said he wanted to see how I was doing mostly. And his first question to me was "are you dating someone else, cuz if you are I will stop coming by to walk the dog so it is not awkward on anyone". I told him no that I am not seeing or dating anyone else. He said he would like it if I did and tried to move on (what a line of crap). He said he isn't dating anyone either, but he said he would like to and he will as soon as the right girl comes along. I didn't comment.

He said he was very happy with his choices and his life right now and that he loves his new freedom. He said he has made all new friends and that he loves them and they all love him and that their is no drama between them all. He said that while we were piecing he felt like we were both suffocating, and that he is enjoying not feeling that way anymore. I didn't comment.

He basically bragged about all the bigwigs in town (politicians and rich people that he has met) being his new buddies. And one of them asked him to join the Kiawana's club, so he has.

He said that he has joined a new band (something he has wanted to do for a very long time now) that was looking for a drummer in a newspaper add. He said they have been jamming a lot, and that the lead singer is a female who is really good. He said he likes most of the music that they play except for two songs. I told him I was happy for him.

He was thrilled for me when I told him I won the trip to the bahammas and he asked me who I was going to go with and I told him I asked my bestfriend Jenn. He was also happy to hear that I won the 400$ on the super bowl. He said he wanted the Patriots to win just becuase it would have broken the dolphins old record and that he hates the dolphins because it is our friends (the man who took me to the black tie affair) favorite team, what a cruel thing to say.

I asked him how his new business was going and he said that he is becoming apprehensive about it, and that his car lift is not working. Then he immediately changed the subject.

I told him that the gang and I are going out to a restuarant tonight to listen to a popular local band play, and he said he was also planning on going to it. He said he wouldn't go if I didn't want him too though. I said the choice is up to you and it wouldnt bother me if he went.

On his way out he said he would probably see me there tonight. Then he said "I want a hug", so i gave him one and walked him to the door and thanked him for stopping by.

I definitely feel like this was another tempurature check on his behalf, just like the phone call he made to me to chat a few weeks back. I think he is realizing that I am moving forward, and is a little curious of all the mystery I have created between us.
He put up a good act that his life is great, but I am no dummy, and even if he is happy right now, I know that true bliss doesnt come from running from your problems and hurting others.
TIPPER