Like mrs.cac4 mentioned elsewhere, you can get into the experience even if you're not in the mood to start off, and wind up feeling a whole lot closer and more in love afterward. Especially if you don't psych yourself out and think that the very fact you're not in the mood to start off means that you don't "really" love him.
The feeling of love ebbs and flows, and grows as you work closely together and open yourselves up to each other. And you can feel in love with people you'd never be able to stand to live with, and you can feel in love with two or three people at once, and the in-love feeling basically isn't a very good guide to your decisions. No one was more surprised than yours truly when I found myself falling in love with Mrs. Eddie after many years of wondering if I'd made a terrible mistake... just changing the way we thought about each other and treated each other and opened up to each other made a big difference. The feeling followed the behavior, instead of the other way around.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
