Loving a WAS isn't easy

[mymonkeybug]

I will be the first to admit that part of my problem was that I treated my wife like she was one of the kids. I have been working really hard to let her do stuff without me always putting my 2 cents in.

OMG Bryan that statement by you was just a HUGE lightbulb going of inside my head. You know what I think I have always done the same thing with my H. Wow, thanks for that one, yet another part of me to work on. I love a good challenge and fighting for this M is one of the best I have ever had but also the most sad and difficult as well.

I ordered 2 of the Bob Steinkamp books about Prodigals returning home and the one about prodigals and what they are thinking and doing while away from their families. I believe they will help me understand what H is going through and in knowing those things I believe they will help me also develop even more patience. I hope they arrive soon.

I agree with you about religion. H and I had always been against organized religion. We were the type of people that need to see it to believe it and didn't agree that there was 1 supreme being. I have however become more close to God since this arose. I find myself praying everyday for my spouses safe return home and for the healing of our family and other things. While I haven't yet committed to going back to church I feel that will be close.