I'll be a casual friend, but no more. I'll maintain my self-dignity, confidence, and positive outlook. If she pursues questions about me, I'll try to turn them back on focusing on her. I'll be open to change and to collaborate on moving forward, but I won't be naive or unrealistic about where we're at right now. I'll be consistent and stress that I'm moving forward.
THIS, however, is NOT:
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I think the main thing I need to do is not get involved in the conversation. Just agree with everything she says and tell her I'm confused and need to think if she asks me any questions. My usual way of handling convos is to try and get her into that emotional space, and I could probably do that. It seems to help make her question things. But this time I'll try something new and work on my detachment.
"Detachment" doesn't mean agreeing with everything they have to say, if what they are saying is either unreasonable or it violates your personal integrity or any of your boundaries.
