I agree with Corri, the brain is the greatest aphrodisiac. You don't control your mind. But that doesn't mean that you can't learn to have better control over it. Can you control your mind to desire your own husband? Certainly. And I'm with the others, I don't buy all that stuff about never desiring him. I didn't have sex on my wedding night either. And that means what? We were tired.
Many of the times that W brought up her lack of interest on the wedding night, I've thought that it very well could have been attributed to just being exhausted from the day. Then you have these enormous expectations that the wedding night sex is supposed to be extraordinary. I wonder how much this has played on her mind over the years. "I didn't want him on that special night. There must be something wrong with us?"
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Retrouvaille is more than one weekend. There are 6 follow-up sessions that deal with many topics beyond the weekend. One of them is sex and intimacy. Did you do the Post sessions? You cannot expect that just the weekend will heal your marriage. Or even that the entire program will heal your marriage.
They've condensed the six weeks into four weeks. We both went to the first follow up, but I missed the second because I had previously planned a ski trip that weekend. I was very encouraged that W went to the second follow up on her own. We've slacked off a bit this past week on the dialogs. Something we need to really set aside time for and get more consistent with.
