Honestly, it does not sound like your H wants your M. If I were you I would take steps to protect yourself and your kids. DB for you and them, not him. You deserve someone who will respect you and treat you respect, too.
I know he has said he wants a divorce at the end of the year, but then he also has not moved out of the house so I think there is part of him that is fence-sitting or he could be in an apartment now instead of getting hotels, and we actually are getting along great 99% of the time, but you are right, he totally treats me with disrespect because of this affair.
I would assume if he is still with the OW he will file for divorce this summer, or if they breakup H might want to work on our marriage I think. And we would have to do a lot of counseling about the way he has treated me! But in DR it says that most affairs only last 6 months or so, so I am hoping that maybe their relationship will not last, because I still do love him, and he knows that, although I never tell him so of course.
In re: to protection, I have seen an attorney and am keeping the financial records, so am doing what I can about that. That should help me in court if it comes to that.Karen43
