I know this is hard. But tell me, what purpose does it serve for you to file? If you think it's going to give you peace, it's not. You can find your peace without filing. Your H already has his freedom, if thats what you want to call it, but now it's time for you to find yours. You can do this without filing.
He is going to move in with her......hmmmm. YAY!! The r will wear itself out. The novelty of it will be gone. His underwear will be lying on the floor and it will drive her batshit crazy.
A small story. My son, 26 has a girlfriend of a year now. Well, his job sent him to Tampa for two weeks of classes, guess where he is staying, yes with his girlfriend who lives there. Guess who is not a happy camper at all? Yup.....you see, the novelty is not what it seemed.
What can you do Cagz, to let your h hit bottom? What can you do to stop the madness in your head? The attitude you portray on here is it the same as you portray to H?
Remember, if it is not working then change it and do something different.
Find a way, any way, to slow yourself down. To learn to stop and digest what he is saying to you without reacting to it. Counter react. How can you do this?
You don't want to have it all done and over. You want your h home and life to continue. It will not happen like that. You want peace restored. This you can do...for yourself. Do it Cagz, without filing.
Hugs
Jeanette
It's inmaterial if you file for D or not, if they want to come back, they will.
