I'll join up for your posse any day, little lady. Can't say in all honesty whether I bring much sanity into the equation, however.
I think your instincts are, as always, spot on. Your husband wants to hurt OW when what would be best for him is to just let it go. He should ignore her, and stay out of it with her. She obviously "got" to him, and he's reacting unwisely -- that's not a good sign.
It also tells me that your H still has a long ways to go.
I think back to those people who hurt me in my life, and if I saw them today I would want nothing to do with them. Life is too short to waste any energy on them. (My CW is now joining their ranks, BTW.)
You're doing wonderfully, Lwb. My hugs and prayers are with you today.
I told him they were working on the M. I am not stupid, my H is trying to hurt OW by doing this. "Trying to 'play' me to call OW's H. "
LWB you ansered your own question. IT"S NOT YOuR PROBLEM... If ya want You can tell OW H that You Ex wanted his cell# and if it's ok to give it to him... That's it.... Remember Detaching????
Originally Posted By: lwb
H was surprised I wasn't more "game" to the idea, since it would hurt OW, saying "She was part of the destruction of our M". I agreed, but said it wasn't my mess anymore, and its not about OW. This is the first time he claims his A was a part of our downfall (usually blames our problems before the A). He is doing this out of hurt and anger, once again. Trying to 'play' me to call OW's H.
Missed opertunity here Lady....
"She was part of the destruction of our M".
good anser.... Ya and you were the other part....
Yes, this is my life. Anyone wanna come join me? I could use some sane souls....... [/quote]
Why don't yo join ME in Vegas
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Completely agree lwb. Not sure if it will work but try to get the point across to your H that you have zero interest in what is going on in OW's life (including crap she continues to do to her own H). Hopefully this will keep him from trying to drag you into future incidents.
About this latest mess though, I'm not sure what you should do. Your H is being spiteful, hurtful and completely unaware/uncaring of what he continues to do to LWB (no surprises there I'm afraid).
I don't think it's your job to keep OW's H informed on what she is doing. You have taken on so much crap in this mess. My suggestion is that you simply let it go. You need to focus on your life, your own problems. You cannot be the St. Louis marriage lifeguard anymore.
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LWB, I also think you made a wise choice in not giving H the cell phone number. But I do like your decision to call him yourself. If the shoe was on the other foot, you would want to know, right?
At least it seems that H is definitely over OW. But his interests in sending those photos were certainly misguided. On a side note, that woman is a loose canon! She's going to end up loosing her cushy lifestyle. She deserves what she gets.
