Helloooo...Smoother Ride....Where Are You???

[SueS]

Something is wrong! I was just leaving from getting my hair cut and saw that H had called twice from his cell phone. Now he isn't supposed to get off until 7:00 and he called me shortly before 6:00. When I did call him, he sounded odd but I thought it was just because of a bad connection. He asked if I wanted to go out, me assuming it was to grab something to eat. I had asked him early today what he might want to do for dinner. No answer, no calls today. No problem for me. I got home and H got home shortly after me. H is drunk! He brought home a 6-pack, opened one and is now passed out on the couch. I looked at his phone. He'd tried to call me, then OW & then one of his 20 something friends. I'm afraid he's lost his job.

His phone rang and I debated answering it. I did. It was one of his 20-something friends. The only one that I 1/2 way like. He was nice and I told him I'd let Steve know he called. He said, let him know it's my b-day on Monday. I said, Oh, Happy B-day, how old will you be? 22!!! He stammered to tell me. He said, well, pretty young......22. I said, Oh, well have a good b-day, I'll tell him you called. Now I've talked to this kid before on the phone. Always nice. This time, nice, but very, very hesitant about talking to me. Probably wondering why H's wife is actually answering his phone.

I will NOT wake H up. If I do that, it will just push him to go out.

Should I answer if OW calls back???

SueS


.........Just called H's answering machine at work. It said he'd be out of the office on Feb. 8th!!!!!!! WTH????

[LL44]

So he didn't work at all today? Today is the 8th right?

WEIRD STUFF!!! I don't know if its worth answering the phone if OW calls, but that's up to you. Either way isn't going to matter, but it might leave her feeling a bit uncomfortable...that's always fun.

I love how you called H's friend "this kid", because...well...that's what he is. My H has a few of those young kids in his life as well.

Keep us posted. Do not wake him by the way.....

[SueS]

lwb-

I don't know if he worked or not. Friday is casual day for him so it was hard to tell. All these questions run through my mind. Not sure what the deal is.

I debated answering the phone if OW calls. Not sure what I'd say anyway. I might just leave it alone.

Yeah, when you're almost 1/2 my age, you're a kid. Hell, he's only a year older than my oldest niece. Just silly to me. I was talking to a friend of mine at work the other day who is in her late 20's. I told her not to get offended when I call these 20 somethings kids. She's almost 30 and I'm not running off to bars with her looking for my past youth. I'll stay young just keeping up with D3.

No, I will not wake him. He did get up once and stumbled to the bathroom. He's back asleep on the couch again.

I'm off to bed.

SueS

[BEAUTYandWAH]

Happy birth day! ( sorry for late)

My H is just like your H. (same name, steve!, MLC like behaviors, jack a**, the issue of M= he did not get attention he wanted (I was in depression and just didn't see anything but my little world..) I thought you were talking about my steve He moved out 2 months ago and he love 'single' life but sometime misses 'homeee' things. We have arguments sometimes and have a good time sometimes. So, I am pretty okay with his absence in home right now.

When my kids go sleep over (thats what my D7 says) with him, I miss them so much. Inside me, I become very mad at my H putting me in this situation that I have to be away from them so often.

I am heading to bed now..

Beauty

[LL44]

How are things today?

[JoieDeVivre]

I bet your H is feeling mighty-fine this morning! I think you should make lots of noise. Run the vacuum.

On a serious note, I hope you're doing ok.

[karen43]

Hope you're ok as well. I 2nd the vacuum idea!!! And thanks for the book suggestion, Sue. I think that's a great idea. I'm too busy to fit in a meeting right now, and that will give me an idea if the whole alanon thing will be helpful or not. Karen43

[NoCodeBlues]

Or... (Do you read Dr. Seuss?) You could sick D3 on him, like my W used to do. Saying "Hop on Pop!"


Just a crazy thought.

[SueS]

Hi!

Well, I did ask H if he worked yesterday. He looked at me like I was crazy. He said, No, I told you I wasn't going to. I asked what he did. Again, the crazy look. I told you that me and 4 other guys were doing a community service project in (Town nearby). HUH??? I just told him that he'd mentioned the one a few weeks ago, but he did not tell me about this one. I gently reminded him that I have a very good memory and I wouldn't question him if he'd told me. No big deal. No argument or anything from either of us. Thankfully no job loss for him either. As much as I think H needs to start hitting bottom, him losing his job at this time would not be good. And yes, I know the community service deal sounds like it could be an excuse. I was more concerned that he'd lost his job than where he'd been at because I couldn't change where he was & who he was with.

I did have a good morning. My dad came in town to get his taxes done by an old family friend. We met for breakfast and then he headed home. Funny...I got up and started getting ready. Here came the questions....where are you going, what are you doing afterward....etc.

Need to take advantage of the quiet time this weekend. I'd love a nap but I need to get some things done around here. Oh yeah, I need to figure out my checkbook......seems H is short on money because he didn't meet even the lowest bonus level and he needs my help to buy our groceries. If it were anything else I'd probably balk at it, but it is a necessity.

Have a great day everyone!