I'm sorry your C doesn't support your reading the DB book. I had read it this summer before I started seeing my C and then she recommended it to me. She was really excited when I told her about DR. I don't trust a C that says you should get a D without trying to work things out first. I think that is what my H's C has told him to do. Keep reading and DBing, it is up to you not your C if you want to try to save you M.
I would say your H was reaching out to you w/ his silly text that you can do yourself. My H calls sometimes when H has the Ds to ask about something that amazes me he is calling for that.
I have been wanting to text H that I miss him while he is on trip, but I'm worried he will see it as pushing. How did your H respond? I did send him a little video tonight of D10 and I think he enjoyed that.
Hi Kalni, After a year of this sh** I still beat up on myself for what I could have done, didn't do right, etc. Invariably there's an OP in the equation and the WAS demonizes the LBS as "controlling", etc. With the emotional support of an OP over time they get the courage (or lack thereof) to break up the family. In variably the OP is an OW/OM and there's at least an EA but it could be a casual friend or family member. Sounds like your C is one of the "whatever makes you happy" kind and you need to find a more solution oriented one who would like to save the marriage.
At any rate our efforts to keep our families together is noble but to a large extent we are like the blind leading the blind here in this DB effort and results are not guaranteed. I can't do half as good a job as the women here at empathizing with other women in this heroic effort but I do sense your suffering and frustration and want you to succeed in your efforts. And maybe it would help you to take a step back and take stock of where you're at.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
He is coming over to pick up the kids any moment now. Today I am shaking thinking I will see him. Tha last couple of days I am sensing something changed and we are further apart. Maybe it's my mood but I cacn't ignore it. Something IS really wrong. I think someone else stepped in the equation and my H is pulling away.
Last year these days we went for skiing with friends,this years things are a mess. Life is full of suprises and it usually hits you right when you thought you had control of it.
I need to share more but I'll do it after he is gone. I am thinking too fast right now, my typing can't keep up.
Kalni
PS Somebody at work is really pursuing me the last few days and all the things he is offering make me miss my H even more. Is that normal?
PS Somebody at work is really pursuing me the last few days and all the things he is offering make me miss my H even more. Is that normal?
Distractions, temptation I know you won't succumb it. Let this make you doubly focus your efforts on your H. Let the would be pursuant know there is nothing to persue don't let this person become an outlet for your emotions, the consequences could be dangerous.
