Please help me!! My wife wants out!

[Jen_Jam]

Steve you took what could be a big and important step. It seems from your W's point of view she's had to "fight" you to get this S (Separation). The best way to end a fight is to stop fighting. Now she cannot fight you on this because you refuse to fight.

Now her head can clear of the "OMG how do I convince him I really mean this" and it will give her time to think.

I remember being about 10 and arguing with my parents. I said I was going to leave home. My Mum said "OK, off you go". I packed my bag and got as far as the garden before going home again

Foem as a woman, there is nothing more attractive then when my H lets me be who I am without trying to "fix" me. Like lat night, I was feeling very down because of things in life (not connected with my M) and my H just let me feel down, didn't try to force me to cheer up and it helped a great deal. In the past he would try and cheer me up, and I would feel obliged to force yself to be happy for his sake. Let your W feel the feelings she does, don't try to force her not to have them, it will not work.

Don't panic about this OM, to be honest it looks like it can go nowhere anyway. You can fight him by being the bigger man. You fight him by becoming more attractive to your W - a long process though. Look up some of FrankD's posts, he may well have something to help here.

Finally, if you can get hold of a film called "It's All Gone Pete Tong". it's about a DJ in Ibizia who goes deaf. He loses EVERYTHING. I watched it early in my sitch and found it a lot of comfort.

OK - my 2p for now. Take it easy, breath deep and as they say in the Hitchikers Guide to the Galaxy - DON'T PANIC