I a so sorry Nocode. In the long run you and the boys will be better off without her interfering in your R. Once the D is through hopefully her attitude to you will improve vis a vis the boys.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength