I think he's off the fence ... I think

[saffie]

I concur with everything Sara said. Retro wasn't an option for me but a year of paranoia post H giving up OW is what brought me to these boards.

In the end, my H saw that total transparency was the only thing that would help me relax and he gave me that. I have to say, that although I read too much into some things, my H has never seemingly wavered from his recommitment.

However, I know some people on here have really good gut reactions - take lwb and sally as examples - and sometimes you have to go with those.

I am so sorry you are feeling this way but trust does take time to restore.