Right, DBing doesn't work with her. But she is wrong. To get divorced you go before the judge. And the judge judges. He will see through her like saran wrap. You document your niceness and your consideration of your children. You go to the counseling on your own. Send her a polite email giving her the dates and times of counseling and ask her to attend. Hopefully she will answer via email too. It would be lovely if she put her true sentiments on paper. These things will be noted.
