Well, some never do. Since all this started in my life I have heard every version of every outcome possible. Some come back and stay, so come and go, some never return and leave OW, some marry OW and stay married, some don't, the list goes on.
I am not sure how many leave and want to return but the LBS says no. It's all a mess as far as I can see. The bottom line, if people can, someone will. Before all this, I knew of affairs... some friends and my mom and sister (both stayed with the H they cheated on), but never realized how many people do this or that my H would. Actually, I did see my H as someone who could cross the line for a night, he has that wandering eye. In fact I think he thought that he could do that with this OW...but he picked a crazy person.
Trusting,
Someway, somehow we all have to get past the anger and hurt. Not for them, but for us. We only have one life (as far as I know) and why waste it being angry or hurt because someone we love is a nincomepoop? No, better to accept that people just do things that hurt others and haven't a clue. Some of them don't even intend to hurt people. They just live on a different planet then the rest of us.
