J, at some point you have to decide that this may be to damn hard on your kids. What is this now, 3 or 4 times y'all have put them through this?
I think your right, she has some mental issues buddy. Let her figure them out, quit trying to do it for her. No more suggestions. If she wants things to work later on, she will have to be the one to make them work. You have done your part my friend. You have hung in there for a very long time and been patient, loving, and supportive.
It might be time to simply lay it out there to her in that manner. Give her the speech. Tell her you have done your part and are through with the games, that it's not fair to the kids. Give her a time frame to get her shitt together or you file and get it done with. IMHO it's time for you to take control of your own sitch and be the one making the decisions.
Not for nothing but if she left anything in the house, box it up for her and make her come and get it. Let her know that your not playing games anymore. She wants to sneak out she needs to take all her crap with her. Send a message that you are in charge of your life now buddy. File for the legal seperation and get control of yoru life pal. I am here if you need to talk bud.
