It's funny, I'm going to give you the exact same advice I just gave bhopeful...just be her friend. Right now what she needs is a friend. All good R's start this way so enjoy this time rebuilding your friendship.
You're right - I tell people that too, but I don't always follow it myself. It has been a stressful month for both of us, so I'm still curious where we will 'level out'. So far this week we've seen each other every single day - Who made that happen. W did.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
You know your W better than anyone...if pulling back would have a negative affect don't do it. You know your W.
Right now, I really can't see anything positive come out of it. W hasn't left her house all week other than to go places with me and go to work (and she even blew work off on Tuesday). I'm concerned about her depression and her spending so much time on her own, but I don't want to pressure her. I know she's struggling financially again, even though I paid for lots of stuff when we were living together (food and stuff mostly, but I also picked up the tab on lots of visits to Wal-Mart). She asked me tonight if I had received money from an inheritance yet, so I was honest with her and told her that I had and how much it was. I didn't think she'd ask for any help, but I didn't think she'd tell me she could go help me find furniture for my house and told me I should buy a big TV for my house.
Oh, I forgot - W is probably going to be out of town for a week around 3/10, so I think that break will help her a lot. I'd be lying if I said I'm not hoping she won't feel the same as she did last time when she went out of town and talk about reconciliation when she gets back, but I'm not building my hopes up.
Also, I interviewed with the company she works for today - I guess she had given me a really good recommendation to people over there. She was really excited when I told her about the interview. I have no idea what the hell to make of that.
