Missmyfriend, Thank you for that insight. I agree with what you are saying. He doesn't seem to be reaching out to much of anyone right now other than the local bar stool. He appears to everyone I talk to right now that knows him to be avoiding everyone like a hermit, and drinking everynight at the bar down the street from his new place.
I don't think the first week or two of his newly opened business is going too well for him. I drive by it on my way to and from work, and his truck hasn't been there much at all this week, and the open sign has only been on once that I saw.
Two days ago I went through town to the dentist office, and passed his empty business only to find his truck was parked at the local library.
Then yesterday, his business again was not open. When I got home there was a note for me from him that said he took the dog for a walk again.
Today, his truck was at the shop, but the lights & open sign were not on. And very strangly, I noticed on my way through town that he had posted business signs sparatically from his old roofing business up and about. My conclusion is that the new business must not be doing too well, and he has spent a lot of money to get it up and running. Therefore he is probably really strapped for cash again, and is resorting to the old business of roofing to make up for it.
He has so desperately tried to get away from that old roofing business for years now, as he hates it and that is what caused his bankruptcy. Not to mention there is lots of snow where I am and its not quite time for a roofing job to pop up (other than small repairs and snow removal). I am a bit worried for him. I will pray that everything goes well for him.
I do think he feels unworthy of lots of things right now, even though that is not the case. He has been through a lot of trauma from his business. That old business was his manlihood and now that it crumbled i think it has totally wiped out his self esteem. He just doesn't want to face anyone he ever knew from the past.
Thanks for telling me that I can do this, as I do believe I can. My H and I had such a beautiful relationship since high school on up. And when he gets better I do believe that those good old memories and feelings will come flooding back into him. It will just take time and lots of it I am sure. I will keep my faith and pray that he will not do anything to end his pain in a devastating manner. TIPPER
