- Great marriage and happy family for over 8 years. - W gets a job as an assitant pre-school teacher and starts going night clubbing with co-workers. - W gets addicted to clubbing and flirting. - W gets genital herpes. She says it was a friends lipstick. I believe her. - I discover she talks a lot with various OM on her cell phone. - I confront W and get "I dont love you" talk. - I beg and pursue stupidly for a month or so. - I seek guidance and support from a counselor, friends and family. This may have been a mistake as too many know for W to come back, however, I would have had a nervous breakdown holding it in. - W has no one that agrees what she is doing is right. - W moves out upon my insistence if she is going to date OM's. The kids stay in the house with me. She apparently moves to stay with co-worker. - I eventually gain strength and happiness in knowing that I will be ok without W. I still dont want a D because of the kids sake. I leave the door to my heart open. - W includes our kids as part of her A with rich OM who happens to be 67. She says she is test driving him to see if he gets along with the kids. I file D because this is so sick and twisted and inappropriate to show kids that permiscuous behavior is ok. - W sees a lawyer, who starts talking her into going after a stake in my ownership of software company (which I had before our marriage) I work at or a portion of any future riches I achieve after the D. This really gets me mad. I talk W into seeing a mediator so as to save us from losing our friendship and lots of legal fees in a D fight. - We start sharing kids as part of a parenting plan we agree on. - W includes co-worker as part of her lie that she was living with co-worker, but instead with OM. Co-worker is furious and feels betrayed. W most likely will lose her job soon. - W finally admits to a "one night stand" which most likely resulted in genital herpes. - W sees her life falling apart and starts to play the victim. - W has still never given any indication other than some hugs and kisses that she wants to save our M. I believe she likes me as the security in her life, but will never love me again. - The door to my heart for my W is closed, locked and the key has been lost. I do not love her anymore and can't see myself loving her deeply again.
