If there is any possible way that you can help yourself reach your goals sooner rather than later, then I can't help agreeing with most other posters' advice in your seven threads.......maybe you have to "pull back".
Not really sure - Sure, things are up and down, but even though she hasn't committed to anything, she is still spending a bunch of time with me. It goes without saying that right now my W needs a friend she can rely on a lot more than she needs a husband - I can't begin to understand where her brain is, or all of the conflicted things she is dealing with, but spending time with her and showing her that I'm someone she can 'let herself go with' doesn't seem to be a negative thing right now.
The last time I 'pulled back' when she needed me it was a total disaster. Caused our first fight in 3 or 4 months, which was stressful for both of us. We recovered and dealt with it, but my W seems to need me around, even if she won't admit to it.
She asked me out to dinner tonight - Not done that in three months. Am I going to refuse? Hell no.
