Just wanted to do a little update. This helps me to post, and I hope helps some of you.
My W has been in the dumps about the ending of her A. She is really broken up about it, and doing a lot of moping around. She has said to friends that she is/was willing to give up EVERYTHING for this guy. He, on the other hand, is begging his wife for another chance.
I *think* that my W is starting to realize that she was played. I think she is seeing that this guy never intended on leaving his kids and wife for her. You never know, maybe he will one day, who knows. But the good thing for me is that she is realizing that the only one who is really willing to be there for her throughout her life, during thick or thin, sickness and heatlth, etc. is ME. She has let me know that she knows how much of a good man I am.
I would say that my days are about 23 1/2 hours of nothing but positivity, laughing, and realizing I am going to be just fine, with or without her. The other half hour of the day is marginal at best. The daunting task of the months/years of marital recovery (IF IT HAPPENS) are sometimes overwhelming. But with some GOOD friends and support, I am able to brave those mini-storms of doubt.
I exposed this A nearly two weeks ago. BEST THING I EVER DID. I know without a doubt I would be a 24 hour basket case if I had NOT done it. It has opened the eyes of me and my wife, in different ways. I am stronger every day because of it. Becuase I exposed it, she is starting to realize she has the best thing in the world right in front of her...and it isnt HIM!
There is a LOOOONNNGGGG road ahead. I am hoping for no setbacks or relapses. But if they come, I am pretty sure I can deal with them. I am hoping every day that the marriage works out for us. But if it doesn't, everything is going to be just fine for me and my kids.
