I remember in counseling the counselor told me that my H was unhappy and unhappy people make drastic changes in their lives to try to "fix" their unhappiness. She said a lot of times people change jobs or get divorced or change their environment as these are major factors in our lives. She said H was demonstrating all of this by wanting a D, getting out of the AF and moving out of our house. She said he would soon see that none if this will make him happy..which he did see. I guess OW was a safe place for him since she probably wasn't questioning any of these major changes like I was. She couldn't tell he was acting different so didn't question it.
I guess I feel like she empowered him to leave. I know I shouldn't blame OW for everything...maybe it is just easier to blame her than my H. I do know that he made his own decisions though.
Anway...TGIF! I have had another hard week at work and I am ready to relax. I am thinking of asking H to come out with me tonight since he complained of not having anything to do last weekend. Here is the thing...of the friends that I have made since I moved back, only about 2 know that I am married. I just didn't want to get into when I came back and it never has come up. I am not sure how it would make H feel to know that my friends don't even know I am married (my close ones do...just not the ones I have made the past few months). I am not sure how to introduce him either....not sure if he would want me to introduce him as my H...or my friend...seems weird to just call him my friend.
